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Nobody is an amazing lover from the moment they are born, it's something that is learned over time through practice, communication and by paying attention to the person you are with.

There are many different aspects to providing pleasure to a woman and in this article I will be discussing just one of those, manual stimulation, or fingering, both with your fingers alone and through the use of finger vibrators or other finger toys

There are a wide variety of ways that you can 'man handle' your woman so that she'll be begging for more. But you always need to keep in mind that for every woman there is a different preference in how she likes to be touched and what really gets her going.

An important thing to remember is that the brain truly is the body's largest sex organ, so in order to 'prep' her vagina you're first going to have to make her mentally ready. This is due to the fact that if she isn't producing any lubricant of her own then any serious activity down there could be quite uncomfortable, even downright painful. So before you start right in on the pleasing make sure she's ready, take your time, communicate, there's no hurry.

Before I show you some good techniques there's just one more point I'd like to bring up. Remember that there are no two women who have identical sexual preferences, they're as varied as finger prints, some love it fast, some slow, some love finger toys, some don't. It's very important for a good sexual relationship to be open and communicate. Some women don't enjoy much, if any, direct clitoral stimulation, on the opposite end there are women who can't reach orgasm without it. Some women can reach orgasm through g-spot stimulation alone and some can't and unfortunately there are women who will never get to experience an orgasm, no matter the situation.

The techniques I will go over here are just guidelines, remember to change them as necessary for the situation and the woman you're with.

1) The Classic
If you've ever fingered a woman then you've probably used this simple technique. But just because it is standard and easy doesn't mean it's not effective, in fact this is one that for most women is guaranteed to get the job done.
After you know she's properly moist you take your index and middle fingers and work them in a circular motion around the clit. Make sure you let her know to keep you informed on her situation, some women love constant clitoral stimulation until climax but some love a bit more variety. She may want you to use those fingers and go inside her for a while before returning to her clit. Pay attention to her reactions and listen to what she has to say.
Don't go too fast at first and always keep a good rhythm, breaking rhythm will interrupt her engagement in the moment and possibly prevent her from climaxing. Unless, of course, she wants you to, then by all means, do as she asks.

2) The Twister
This technique is similar to a standard in and out movement with your straight finger(s), but with a twist. To begin you should place yourself between her legs while she lies down on her back or leans back in a seated position.
To start you place your fingers just inside the lips of her vagina with your palm facing downwards, then as you push your fingers in deeper you twist your hand so that at maximum penetration your palm is facing upwards. On retrieval you again twist so your palm is facing downwards at minimum penetration.
One thing to keep in mind is try to hold pressure on the upper wall of the vagina, this is where the g-spot is located and this type of fingering technique is generally aimed at g-spot stimulation. 2) Two is Better Than One
This is a very strong technique but requires a bit more left/right hand coordination than most other techniques. You start by placing yourself between the girls legs while she is lying on her back or leaning back in a chair, you can also sit to one side or the other if that's more suitable or more comfortable for you.
With one hand you move one or more fingers in a thrusting motion inside her vagina and with your other hand you rub your index and middle fingers in a circular motion around her clitoris. Rhythm is key here so to be able to more easily do this without losing your even tempo you might want to try starting with only one hand or the other and when you're in the groove slowly add the second hand.
Even though each hand needs to keep its own rhythm, nobody says both hands need to follow the same beat. Make one hand fast and the other slow and mix it up a bit and ask her what she likes the best.

3) Take it up a Notch With Finger Toys
As great as the human fingers are, sometimes it's nice to have a little extra variety, variety is the spice of life, you know.
One option is called a finger toy, and rightly so, this little toy is essentially a small extension to your own digits. However it does have something your fingers lack; nubs and ticklers. You just place these over your own fingers and go on with business as usual. Some finger toys are simple stimulators that use your own movements to provide pleasure, but there are also finger vibrators that will do much of the work for you.
A different option is using a vibrator such as a bullet. You may know these as common sex toys that women use for masturbation, however they can be just as fun, if not more so, when used by a partner. You can even take the bullets up a level by adding a finger toy onto them!

Final Thoughts

There's a lot of ways to pleasure your partner and a lot of ways for him/her to pleasure you! Don't let yourself get caught in a rut, don't limit yourself, don't stop communicating, don't stop practicing and it's you that'll be 'that guy' who's a god in bed.